Folks, one of the niceties of being a MOM has been the wit, insight, and civility revealed in the forum. Case in point, we just went through years os US political campaigning and, with few exceptions, forum comments tended to remain civil and respectful of the span of different opinions that are a reality in this international mix. In light of that, and of the recent - and hopefully isolated - drama over the US 2nd Amendment, I have to ask why have we gotten away with this for so long? In my opinion, for what its worth:
1. As a rule forum participants (at least our somewhat seasoned, or ripe, if you prefer) have fairly cosistently shown a respect and appreciation for the differences across time zones and latitude that each of us bring to the table. it seems there has been an awareness in the DF community that we all bring our own political and social views and values to the forum and that it is our common enjoyment of the game and an interest in flying/dogfighting that binds this crew together.
2. In the few instances where folks have felt the urge to express their personal values/beliefs - God, guns, political candidate choices - this community has generally had the good sense to opt for civility, ignore the outbursts, and drown those expressions with silence. I have seen no effort to strip anyone of their right to speak...just a general preference to ignore the soap box in favor of staying civil...of focusing on the common enjoyment of the game.
is this worth keeping? For the most part the forum is a place to share game experiences, frustrations, ideas for improving the game and player behaviors, personal details that explain our common appreciation for this game, and yes, some real community building in this digital world.
If that is something we, you want to keep, lets all try to think about the power of the words and symbols we use. We've had the good sense to fairly collectively react to the ignorance of racism, the negative influence of profanity in game, the shared responsibility to each other, young and old, to promote the values of honor and fairness in this game. And, these ideas can potentially extend outside the game as well.
It seems that when powerful words and symbols are injected into the forum that emphasize our differences, the result is often uncivil feather ruffling that leads players with one or more different opinions to feel rejected, isolated, insulted, and/or otherwise abused by the larger group. Sometimes this is followed by apologetic explanations, series of posts to smooth the water, etc.
I'd like to suggest that we all try to remember that we've been brought together by our appreciation of this digital game. The forum is a great place to celebrate that common preference and chew over everyday stuff. It is also a place where our collective reaction to generally unacceptable behavior can be brought to bear. I have seen this group react strongly when they see gender abuse, racism, inappropriate game play and language, etc. All of this shows the good side of a civil, online community.
The problems I've been discussing generally come up when social/cultural/political differences don't satisfactorily clarify what is preferable or acceptable. These can be differences about gun ownership; foreign policy; religion; economic policy; political candidate or party choices; drunk driving laws, etc. In a free society with free speech I would never limit anyone's expression of those views and values. In a game forum I hope that we can all overlook those expressions and remember what brings us together in the first place. If you like the Labour Party, great! Liked Romney for President, terrific! Think trickle-down economics are a joke, more power to ya! Want an arsenal in your basement, cool! I may or may not agree with any or all of those choices, but in the end that's not why we're on the forum or in the game. Let's have fun, be civil, promote this game, and kill 'em all!
Disclaimer: Author makes no claim to professional training or expertise relevant to above discussion, is not an MD or therapist, and likely exhibits more psychological abnormality than the general population. References to the US Constitution, Mitt Romney, The Labour Party and Religion are central to this discussion and not intended to violate international copyright law or personal sensibilities of the reader. Author clearly expresses no desire to offend any reader, but if offended, "get over it!" Now, take two aspirin, log on, get in a DF game, and kill something!