Black Flag wrote: Wig, I gotta say this: making comments on someone deceased is out of line. Anyone knows that, so I hope you are sure (rhetoric) I really don’t care to know the answer because I know there no way that you know. I for one, based on my conversations I have been in and read on KIK, believe this to be true what Blackstar said. You crossed the line. Plan and simple and showed me a piece your character that I care little for. Blackstar has been the way he is from the beginning – this guy is a fighter and he’s got a fighter mentality; hot headed and he’s sonnofabitch, but he’s a good guy and has not changed from the get go. I respect that. And this is just me speaking about who I am and not some put on forum persona that’s being put on: I feel the same way Blackstar does. If someone were to say that to my face about one of my brothers, I’d beat the ever living crap out of them. And if no one thinks they’d do the same; or at least feel that way; well then I think you’re lying to yourself or you’re not worth weight in salt.
I really don’t care to know anything about anything else; about what was said or done about anything else. Your comments about his brother were way out of line and completely uncool.
Flag, under any other circumstances I'd say I couldn't agree with you more. What you're gleaning from this is not a hidden aspect of my character, it is, as Martin pointed out, the result of an ongoing conflict that was private - and as such outside your range of knowledge - until snobumm chose to make his slanted, confrontational role in it public.
Not only would I never actively seek to disrespect the grief of someone who'd lost a family member, I wrote a completely genuine message of sincere condolences to snobumm when the story of his alleged brother's alleged death was made known to me. His appreciative response is on the forum for anyone to see. Keep in mind; the story of the death was never made known to me or M.O.M, snobumm's "family" squad at the time. It was posted elsewhere, under the radar, no mention of it was made to me/us.
What I unapologetically disrespect is someone who'd manipulate the authentic compassion of an entire community because he doesn't recognize that community's right to basic courtesy. This is what I'm convinced snobumm has done, and I'm not alone.
We've had M.O.M members pass away twice. Serious illness and injury has struck core members and other Dogfight players and we've all always pulled together, regardless of squad. We've seen each other through tough times. These M.O.Ms are Multi-faceted human beings with tremendous heart and genuine affection for each other and the group. I can't begin to express to you how insulting I find it, being told that nothing we value in Dogfight or in M.O.M is "real". If snobumm has zero concern for what he regards as not real, I have to have the same lack of concern for what I regard as a lie of his.
In short, Flag, you're a good man and you aren't wrong, but be careful who and what you believe. And consider the track records of the people involved. You and I had one brief clash (think "Hello Kitty slippers"!) that was purely a misunderstanding of an intentionally over-the-top attempt to elicit a laugh. I know you know now that this was the case. The situation you're commenting on here couldn't be more different. It is, in my view, a self-absorbed misanthrope with inverse low self-esteem and a proven anger management issue pissing on something I - and, I believe, you - value tremendously; our friends and community here in Dogfight. You may not be comfortable with my calling snobumm out on what I think was a scam, but we are still ultimately on the same side. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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