Thanks for sharing some wisdom here, Vivek. If only "common sense" were more common. It's unfortunate that many parents seem more concerned about shaping their children rather than cultivating them. Some friends sang this song for the Mrs and I while we were awaiting the birth of our 2nd, the words are among the most profound advice I have ever heard... your posts here reminded me.
On Children
(by Sweet Honey In The Rock)
your children are not your children;
they are the sons and daughters of
life’s longing for itself.
they come through you
but they are not from you
and though they are with you
they belong not to you.
you may give them your love
but not your thoughts,
they have their own thoughts.
you can house their bodies but not their souls,
for their souls dwell in a place of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit,
not even in your dreams.
you can strive to be like them,
but you cannot make them just like you.